It’s nice to think that systems can do everything. But what about people? People respond to motivation and sometimes that means rewards and punishments.
Here I want to talk about Continue reading Learning: Motivation Quadrant – Positive, Negative, Immediate & Future
In preparing for this post I re-read the relevant section of “The Accidental Salesperson“, wrote and re-wrote a movie script, did multiple read-throughs, waited for the right lighting and free time, set up the sound, did multiple takes, edited the video in iMovie, uploaded it to YouTube including setting a thumbnail and closing screen with adjusted timings and then created this matching blog post on fozziewossie.com.
Sometimes you want the result to be magical but most of the time people are more impressed knowing the effort and professionalism that sets you apart.
So why not start your next meeting with “In preparing for this meeting I…”
For years my parents asked questions like “Why are you still on the computer?”
After thousands of questions maybe it isn’t a surprise that I’ve built up a defensive reaction to those why type of questions.
And yet here I am in customer meetings asking “Why are you running one-month cycle plans?”
And maybe it’s not a surprise that customers are often defensive for those type of questions.
It’s probably not difficult to change them to how or what type of question.
So instead I could ask “What are the benefits you get from running one-month cycle plans?”
It’s the same question just worded differently and from an emotional perspective will get a different response. This is something that Chris Voss talks about in Never Split the Difference.
So have a think about how many why questions you ask throughout the day and how you might be able to change those questions to get a better emotional response.
There’s something beautiful about a well run meeting – just how it flows.
You build that rapport up with someone over time. You know what they are going to say, how they are going to say it, when they are going to say it. You know how they are going to move a meeting so that it flows well and moves the participants.
It really came home to me when we added a new team member to a meeting. It really threw everything out – just that third person.
I think there’s two main things you can do:
So give yourself more time to close that meeting so you can still have a great meeting while you build up that rapport in the future.
It’s election season in Singapore and finally, a local politician knocked on our door.
I was ready. I ran. I grabbed my wife and child – they’re both citizens and voters.
And I had a list of things prepared, ready to go, ready to talk about. But I got stage fright.
We got a photo and the politician walked away.
I think what I really regret is that I didn’t have just one thing. One thing that I really wanted to get across. One thing that I’d focused on. Prepared for. Prepared that moment for.
So when the time came it was really clear what I was going to do.
I think rather than focus on ten things let’s focus on just one and get it right.
